1st, I must report that each of these people indicated that Ry is a sweet boy. And the ADOS testing did confirm that he is on the Autism spectrum.
Each person had a moment to voice their observations of Ry. To the last person reporting, the comment was he can't make eye contact, does not have peer interaction or if he does it is inappropriate, has language difficulty and can't sit still. And????????
They indicated that he tries very hard at what he does get accomplished, wants to please, is funny, affable and they like him. Ok????????????
Once again I have to say, have they read the diagnosis for PDD-NOS, HFA or Asperberger's? So basically they just said what the reports findings were. So confirmed and confirmed. What we have known since he was an infant is true. He has an ADOS but still does not have a qualified medical diagnosis for his placement on the Autism spectrum. pardon me while I gather my composure again.
Shel came through the door and said, "well that's two hours I won't get back in my life". Now to the real frustrations.
His special ed.
His speech therapist has been sending reports home that say the good he has done (minimal), the bad he must correct (substantial) and all of these are behaviors not speech related. Ry let us know last week that she (the speech person) was teaching him how to be good. I thought Shelley was going to come unglued. She told him he was good and that no one needed to teach him that. Then explained that he would always have to try harder to have good behavior but that he was good. (damn grownups and their lack of caring how a kid hears what they say). The speech person's biggest gripe was that he won't make eye contact. Once again yay for Shelley. She let the speech person and everyone else in the room know, that for a child with autism, it is almost impossible for them to do that. The speech teacher said she couldn't understand why not. (big ass mistake on her part). Shelley gave them the name of the DVD for teachers in the classroom dealing with children with Autism that is required for the staff to have watched in order to work with Autism kids and said that one particular section deals with this issue. "If a child with autism makes eye contact then that is what they are concentrating on and cannot answer what you ask or require of them. If you avert your eyes, they will be able to accomplish the task without the painful distraction of trying to read your face at the same time. The speech person just sat there. (giant duh monster, I'd like to have the opportunity to teach her how to be good)
His regular classroom teacher (older and wiser) said he is really trying, is doing above grade level work and has gone from a non reader or writer to a catch up situation and will be going into a blended 1st/2nd classroom. She said he is very good at being polite and has learned to take turns and share. Hey touchdamndown.
Autism specialist reported that she and the autism team really enjoyed their time with Ry because he is quite the charmer and they can tell by his sense of humor that he is enriched at home and feels safe. Thank the Gods.....we did something good for our boy. And that he definately is on the spectrum.