Friday, November 29, 2013

Oh for pity sake............

Yesterday was perfect. I know that sounds like I'm bragging and I am. I know that there is rudeness in feeling that way, but I am well pleased with the results of our endeavors. We worked like a well oiled (no now liquored up) machine. Shelley and I worked at our tasks in sync accompanied by some jobs done by the grands. And there was such a leisure to the pace because SM had to work until later and we didn't have to have all the meal on the table by 2 pm. In many ways it was just too easy and quiet.

And yes, we do have greyish fruit salad for breakfast this morning. SM volunteered to go out to the garage to retrieve the wonderfulness. It was that cold again last night. Brrrrrrrr.

The pity sake is that Shelley went out to a convenience store for her beverage of choice, Dr. Pepper at around 5 pm and bought a newspaper also. Egads!!!!! The news part of the newspaper was about 3/4" and the other 5" was ads for places to buy things that are "required" for Christmas happiness. We don't get the paper delivered so I am out of the habit of seeing ads, and certainly this many. And for what? I simply do not understand Black Friday or shopping frenzies at all.

I should confess that when Shelley was little, I would buy each person a different design of wrapping paper so that there would not be any confusion (what a waste) and I would also over buy for her, so I am not completely without guilt of over do of the season. Then the day after Christmas I would go to the stores for next years things at huge discounts. But sports fans, that was after Christmas. Now the real confession is that I would forget where I hid the items I had bought and panic 51 weeks later when I was wrapping everything and couldn't find some things I remembered buying. So, logic told me, (oh no not that old hat) stop buying and hiding things because I always found them in the summertime.

This push for us to buy, buy, buy our way to happiness is well.....disgusting. It has completely tarnished the sparkle of gift giving. Completely warped everyone's view of the season. I just can't imagine anything being that important that you are willing to camp out on Thanksgiving day so that you can have your optimum place in line. But then I don't understand a lot about this whole gimme, buyme, I wanta attitude that is prevalent. I am really gonna sound like an old person but I remember Christmas's when I was thrilled to get what I got in my stocking which was candy and nuts with a tangerine in the toe and my one gift from Santa. There never were oodles of presents under our tree even though there were 5 of us in the house. It was ever so magickal and remarkably small.

Now if you aren't ready by Thanksgiving to shop til you drop, you probably aren't going to make it in time. And with Thanksgiving being so late for the retailers to make the majority of their money, of course they opened on Turkey day for the almighty buck. It's so sad. The only lesson anyone learns from all of this is greed in all of it's ugly manifestations.

The Cuckoos will be having another go at the leftovers for dinner and settle into watching some well aged Peter Pan. The shopping can go hang itself, we have a short enough time together in life as it is. We aren't wasting any of it on taking the 5" of ads in the newspaper and using it for anything except making paper ornaments.......great colors and easy paper to tear.

Here's to a weekend of just being, not anything else. I would wish for you also to be at peace. Oma Linda

16 comments:

  1. I'm with ya, girlfriend! Yesterday was spent putting up the Christmas tree and later meeting up with friends at the square to listen to a rockin' band and people watch (always fun watching the seniors boogey on the square!) And that was just perfect and relaxing and what the holidays should be about, right?

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    1. Sounds like a fun time. I envy you having all that you want that close and friends to share it with. xoxo

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  2. Linda, your holiday sounds absolutely wonderful. I'm old too and remember the magic of a simpler Christmas. I now wonder how many people are so busy shopping that they can't even take their kids to see Santa or to see the lights and decorations on houses and downtown areas. I am encouraged, though, to read how outraged people are getting with the commercialism and hopefully more of us will start to simplify !

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    1. We had a discussion at breakfast about that very subject. I wonder what it will be like for my grands when they are grown and have kids of their own. I hope things return to simpler pursuits.

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  3. I'm glad our economy is doing as well as it is with strong signs of recovery, but I'm just not into shopping. Years of working retail at Christmas just burned me out.

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    1. I'm glad the economy is doing better but.....we all lived through the same thing in the 70's and look where it brought us. The same cycle of spend, charge, pay through the nose. I too worked retail and have always cursed the masses with "if you had to work during Christmas, you might behave better", but I guess I was wrong.

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  4. When I was a kid, we were guaranteed to receive two Christmas presents -- one from our parents and one from Santa. Beyond that, it was a crap shoot. If we happened to also get a gift from our Grandma or an Auntie, it was pure gravy!

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    1. I know right? When my grands first arrived back here from SC my daughter tried to make up for the lack of so much (food, heat, peace, you know the little things in life) and really went off the deep end. Thank goodness in 5 years time she has come back to the realization that excess only breeds contempt and empty pockets. I have a friend who used to say. "If 3 presents was good enough for Jesus, its' good enough for my kids".

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    2. I had a good laugh at your friend's saying -- but it's TRUE!

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  5. Our family has never been one to latch on to the holiday excesses, we give one big gift each, with a max value of £100/$150 or so, and then just put wee bits and pieces in each others stockings (or if they're books, under the tree), usually wee things we've picked up on our travels.

    I've never understood the people that go into huge amounts of debt for the 'perfect' Christmas, where half the gifts probably never see the light of day again more than once. My gran's next door neighbour uses my gran's house to hide things from her kids (who are now 21 and 23 incidentally!) and we have always been rather mind boggled at the amount of stuff she buys! When they were little, she was the one queueing outside shops when precious few of the 'must have' toys of the season were being delivered, and as for the house decorations - oy vey! She thinks we're odd too though, with our teeny, tiny table top tree at my gran's (although if it's at my parents we have a real tree), and that's it!

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    1. Your family sounds much saner and much more practical. I vote for your way everytime. xoxo

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  6. Any time you have to park a quarter mile or more away from a sale or store, you have to think "is this worth it?"
    Not only did we not get up before dawn to shop, I did have one specific thing I was after and we did not get going before 10am and almost missed out. The store employees greeted me warmly and said they were worried about me!
    Yes - I went to the giant pet supply retailer and loaded up on cat litter and pet foods that were discounted one day only. It was worth the trip.
    On the way back I stopped at a hardware plus store and finished filling the van with discounted laundry supplies. Maybe not the most popular of items for frenzied shoppers, but having my home well stocked, at a good price, and not having to run out during a major snowstorm will make me happy.
    Even at those stores there was plenty of people watching to be done but none of the violent outbursts you see on tv.

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  7. We do not do the crazy shopping here - our gifts are simple and there are not a lot of them, BUT - EVERYONE has a Christmas sock and let me tell you =\- that is the highlight of Christmas here. There are no sets of keys to new cars, or a 4x4 in the driveway or tickets to see the Green Bay Packers play, (although I think that would be really KOOL for ME), - we have lots of treats, the wonderful meal, lots of leftovers to chew on and make "Mum's" gravy/turkey sandwiches with my home made fries and later in the week, lots of seafood for the chowder I will make for New Years - Christmas at home with family and neighbours dropping by, munching on treats while all snuggled in den, watching Scrooge become mellow, Christmas with the Kranks, Elf and we are a huge happy family.
    Saw some of those outbursts on Internet News and I am embarrassed that adults would act in such a manner - that part of society and greedy businessmen gone bad. Its quiet in our little Town says this Maritimer. Have a wonderful day Oma Linda and I too remember as a small child a sock within a sock, an orange, a box of raisins, nuts, candy cane, a small bit of chocolate and a small toy - the good ole days :) When My Mom n Dad had enough money there was home made peanut brittle - OH YUMMY :)

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  8. I am so with you on this one. I do love gift giving. I really do. I love to make things and have fun surprising people... but this year the ole brain, well, she ain't workin' so well and this bod... it ain't cooperatin'. But the Black Friday thing. The insane thought of: I must go shopping! I must get the perfect gift! All that jazz... I am really not into it. I hate crowds, I hate spending money on things no one will use or whatever... and the fact is, the things I love the most have always been the things people have made for me and I think it's likewise. I did go overboard in past years... as it was when I was a child. Christmases were HUGE in our house. My dad worked two jobs and made it special. The reason being, we did not get anything else during the year. Our clothes, minus some school clothes, and music and whatever else only came on Christmas day. I have no idea why my parents thought it best to make Christmases so danged enormous. As a child it was truly magical and wonderful... but I think it would have been better in the long run to give us a simple and happy Christmas as opposed to the huge amount of boxes under the tree. I think it would have given me a different way of looking at it as a young adult with my own son. Now, though, they are simple, quiet, and no one rushes around here and there and everywhere like maniacs in order to have that commercial perfect Yuletide.

    Brightest blessings to you and your family this season and may all the beauty and perfection of sharing time with loved ones fill you with the magic of the season,
    Bird
    Thank you for the reminder. Big hugs and love!

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  9. I'm with you, Miss Linda. All this shopping overkill just gets on my nerves. I will not even go into the wasted resources those 5" of ads used up in the newspaper. And to think, yours is only one in thousands of newspapers that boasted such waste! Honey, I am as guilty as anyone when it comes to mass consumerism, and it took me a long time and lots of credit card debt to learn my lesson. Yikes!

    Anyway, it sounds like a marvelous meal and shared company was had by all. If it is easier to eat after 2pm, you should make it your new tradition. As a side note, I just sent your gift card to the email address you placed on my blog. Please let me know if you do not receive it. All my love to you, Mina

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  10. I am with you totally in this post Oma Linda! It's too much about the gifts!! Give me, more and more! These people are stupid! It's not what the season is all about! We always got a tangerine in our stalkings ;o) You know, I still have my one and only stalking! I love it and will never get rid of it! Everyone has lost the feeling! Just being happy, thankful, and being with friends and family! Life is too short! Look at the young guy who just passed away from the Fast and Furious movies! So sad! And, the train that went off in New York. I was thinking about Magaly! Take Care ;o) Big Hugs xoxoxo

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